The empress’ offensive clothes

It’s always been an interesting and sad case to see how Black women and young black girls are treated in the United States of America. It does not take a genius to understand the hurt they feel when disrespected by Black men on various levels during their lifetimes. So you can only imagine the hurt when one of their own attacks them.

Jam Donaldson, the brilliant mind behind HotGhettoMess.com, penned a commentary on BlackVoices.com last week, agreeing with the behavior of a teacher at Seneca Valley High School in Germantown, MD who called a young black female student a prostitute because of the way she was dressed. 

The teacher apologized for the comment and returned to class after a one-day absence. I’ll get to the teacher’s comment in a bit, but I must say that Ms. Donaldson must have no conscience  whatsoever.  Aside from creating a website that perpetuates stereotypes of black people in the United States, she also finds time to disparage young girls, which I’m going to assume she was once upon a time. The picture attached to her commentary isn’t even the girl or the outfit in question. Observe.

As I have lived and worked around the metropolitan Washington, D.C. area for not quite three years now, I’ve noticed this is standard fashion for the young ladies: Leggings, flat shoes and a form-fitting t-shirt. I might be desensitized or not looking that hard (either is fine), but nothing about her gear says “Hey, how much?”

I must say that while we do live in a sexualized society that glamorizes risque fashion and behavior, her outfit isn’t really that offensive or scandalous. As a high school underclassman, Lil’ Kim’s “Crush on you” video was super popular. As the video illustrates, Kim put on different colored wigs to match the background she was rapping in front of.

Not long after that video debuted, it seemed like every girl in my high school had the booty cutter shorts and random florescent-colored wigs in their fashion arsenal. No teacher ever called them a prostitute.

It calls to the forefront a larger issue that people seem uncomfortable with discussing – the intimidation of (and by) the Black/curvy/voluptuous/plus-sized female body. While Hollywood and the modeling industry would make one think different, real women, to steal a phrase, have curves. 

Those women unfortunately are belittled and berated for being proud of their appearance and wearing the clothes they want to wear, as most are not in poor taste or ill-fitting. Almost sort like of society’s own “How dare you be proud when you aren’t a size two.”

So with that in mind, this teacher was most definitely out of line in calling her student a prostitute. If her clothes were that offensive and distracting, then she should’ve pulled her to the side and made her aware of that and asked her to put that kind of outfit away at least until the end of the school year.

Instead, the teacher reacted irrationally, and once again, we are examining the stress and strain of being a certain way in America. No teenager should have to deal with that regardless of what she’s wearing.

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6 thoughts on “The empress’ offensive clothes

  1. Ms. Donaldson has repeatedly shown herself to be a clown through the years.

    I take great issue with the provocative way in which young women are not only allowed, but encouraged to dress and act from varoious quarters of society. Yet, there’s appropriate and inappropriate ways to address that, especially a school employee in authority over children, and certainly call a young girl a prostitute based on her manner of dress is inapropriate.

  2. Even if the outfit was less than tasteful, its tasteless to comment on the appearance of someone else’s child. For however distracting, self-depreciating or inappropriate an outfit may be, there is no cause for an adult in a teaching capacity to offer a teaching moment that should be initiated in the home.

    It’s bad to dress ugly, and even worse to act it.

  3. Exactly, gentlemen. While her outfit might not be the most trifling thing in the world, parents do need to pay closer attention to what their kids, ESPECIALLY their daughters wear because of all the pervs walking (just read an article in the Post today about a serial rapist on the loose).

    This is a teachable moment for all – parents, teachers and kids.

  4. It was her duty as a teacher and a public servant to handle this in the best care of the child, and she didn’t. Sure we see kids everyday dressed in an inappropiate manner, but to belittle or berate them is not the course to take especially when you are supposed to be a leader, figurative head, and teacher. It just goes to show you that everyone that takes the test to become a teacher are not always fit to wear the crown…with that comes a great responsibllity not only to the public, your administration but most importantly to your students. I am already putting together a post on the subject of beauty, because as i see it, America is the most guilty of establishing images that encourage our daughters, our sisters, our friends to not love themselves, but to hate themselves based upon America’s dillusional image of what beauty is.

  5. If the teacher felt the need to have the child escorted out of the classroom by a security officer, I doubt she was wearing leggings, flats, and a form fitting top.

    I’ve seen what some young girls these days wear to school (whether they be black, white, purple, and blue) and it’s becoming completely ridiculous. We as women, can’t command respect if we’re not respecting ourselves. And that begins with how we present ourselves to the outside world.

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