We’re in the final 48 hours of 2013, so it’s time to reflect on the year that has passed. Let’s look at what you’ve accomplished, what you weren’t able to get done and let’s try to figure out a way to do those things and more in the coming year.
You let up off the gas a bit with diet and exercise, but for the first time since high school, you kept your weight below 300 pounds for an entire calendar year. Numbers are just numbers, but that one is important to you and you’ve been able stay around 250-260 for about 14 months now, which is great.
However, remember your original goal was a toned 220 pounds and in order to do that, you have to get over your fear of hitting the gym and the weights, so let’s work on getting a gym membership and get to clangin’ and bangin’ as The Rock would say. Well…a little after New Years. You know how those early year gym crowds can be.
Professionally, your business took a hit because you didn’t have the resources to make some things happen and that’s okay, but in the meantime, you found a job that you’re enjoying so far. Still some sports involved, still communications and media-related, so use this job as an opportunity to figure out your path. If self-employment is still a part of it, have at it. But you’ve always enjoyed and admired those in the sports information field and this job is a perfect proving ground for that, so do your best and see what happens.
Personally? Yep, still dealing with the same struggles you have been for years. You have excuses about it – your looks, you blame it on Delaware being small and boring, you don’t feel like you compare favorably to the guys that women want and are with.
So what are you going to do about it? You’ve lost 90 pounds or more, you’re gainfully employed and you also have a personality. Why not use it? Why not get comfortable with yourself so you can be comfortable with attempting to date and other social situations? Time to give it a shot. If you really think it’s where you live, then you’ll just have to relax until you can move elsewhere.
So let’s talk about 2014 and a few things you need to do to make the coming year better than the last.
Let’s work on getting back to business with All Subjects Everything. Sure life got in the way, but now that you’re back in the workforce, no excuse for your baby not to be successful. Get some internet at home, do the show every week and continue to build what you’ve been working on the last three years. Related to that, stick with the side business. Now that you have a job that calls for you to do what you wanted to do with business, you’re establishing credibility, so go for it.
Also, try to venture out somewhere for something once a month. It can be something small as a basketball game or as big as a movie or concert. Just try it, even if it will be by yourself. Getting out of the house is necessary if things are ever going to change for you socially.
Remember, you still have two major projects to complete or at least start – one being the DSU sports book and the other is finding someone to talk to about the things that are bothering you. Once again, you have the resources now, no reason to keep torturing yourself and wondering what’s wrong without getting a definitive answer.
In relation to that, you have to spend some time with yourself that’s productive and positive. I know being alone with your thoughts lead you to feeling bad about yourself and about the future in general, but try to think of some of the good things about you and what you’ve accomplished this past year and in life. 2013 was difficult, let’s be real. The job thing came through at just the right time, otherwise this letter would probably have a much different tone to it.
But the great thing is that for the most part, you survived 2013. You’re stronger and better than what you give yourself credit for. It’s time to start believing in yourself and believe that things will get better. Reading the Law of Attraction and The Secret this year has taught you if nothing else that words are powerful. Use yours to your benefit for a change. You deserve it.